I want my wife to have sex with another woman.
Remember your first time having sex? That uncomfortable, strange, confusin g ordeal? Despite what we see in the movies, first time romps are rarely the most orgasm-inducing, rocket-blasting sensual experiences of our burgeoning sex lives. The truth is, no one knows what they're doing. And what about having sex with a woman? When two women have sex, it is as unique, awkward, and liberating as any other kind of sex.
Sex between two women is valid, strange, and beautiful. But if you've never done it before, the experience may seem a little daunting. So, if you've been curious about what it's like to get down with another lady, or want to know what to expect when you finally take the plunge, here are six real women's stories on having sex with a woman for the first time.
I didn't really 'react' one way or another, it just felt very natural and I absolutely liked it. I indeed was struck by the softness of two female bodies against one another and how fulfilling sex can be without a penis in sight, but it was really just a great date followed by great sex.
Tuning into another person's body and mind doesn't change based on the body or genitalia of the person you're sleeping with. We went out to a house party and started dancing together.
When we got back to my place to crash, I invited her to sleep in my bed. Then I asked if I could kiss her. We started making out and I said to her, 'I've never gone down on a girl and I really want to. Do you want to try? I was so nervous!
I didn't know what I was doing, so I let my instincts take over. It was such a natural and liberating experience. It was also one of the few times I felt dominate and in control with a sexual partner. Neither of us were identifying as bisexuals, but we also didn't chalk our experience up to being just a drunken mistake. We never had sex again after that, but it was what started my journey on identifying as bisexual and seeking out female sexual partners. For as long as I could remember, penetration actually terrified me, and given my heteronormative definition of sexI wrongly believed I could never have 'real sex' because of it.
And, also wrongly, I believed that as a 'real lesbian' I couldn't enjoy or take part in penetration.
But my first partner eased me into the feeling. I feel more confident and excited to experiment with strap-ons and internal vibratorsnot just on my future consenting partners but for use by them on me too! Learn 14 mind-blowing facts that will completely change the way you think about orgasms.
I could definitely tell that we were attracted to each other and I was always nervous around her. We weren't close friends, mainly because I was a blithering idiot around her, because sexual attraction does that to people, you know? I knew I was gay but wasn't out, and I also intrinsically knew this girl was gay too. I think that's why we were so shy around each other.
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We crawled up into her bunk bed at camp and at some point, she put her arm around me. The next thing I knew we were kissing and the next thing I knew she was going down on me! I was nervous as hell once we started kissing, but after a few seconds, it felt so right, that I was totally swept up in the moment!
And then I started going down on her, and even though I had never done it before, it just felt really natural. Afterward, however, we were both awkward.
I mean how could we be normal around each other after we had experienced this crazy-intense sexual experience? We avoided each other.
For a year. I literally used to Google: 'How to have sex with a woman if you are a woman. I didn't let her go down on me and I didn't go down on her.
I had no idea what I was doing. There was a lot of hand-stuff and messy-kissing all over the place.
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I didn't have an orgasm and I don't think she did either. After that, I started kissing more and more girls until the opportunity came again.
The second time was definitely better. Having sex with a woman for the first time especially, I think, if you're a young gay like I was can be really daunting. I worried about 'doing it right' until I learned how to communicate with my partners. The three of us spent two steamy days rolling around together. My best friend still has no idea. Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in NYC.
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